While rumination facilitates aĬow’s digestion, it can be a devastating concept when applied to mobilizing negative Unswallows, re-chews and re-swallows its food. Like tumors, lies grow over time as we reliveĪnd speak negative words and thoughts. Perniciously, its influence on our decision making and self worthĭwarfs its relatively small size. It starts by invading a small area of our mind andĮmotions, moving inexorably from the conscious to the subconscious recesses of Lies about ourselves are like a tumor (we’ll use a brain I gave Mary some solicited advise which I will share later. After carefully listening and emphasizing that I am not a Psychotherapist Towards her, this fails to compensate for her entrenched feelings of Scars from a broken childhood and abusive relationships clearly runs deep andĭespite decades of psychotherapy, her low self esteem persists unabated. A few years later she met and married Bob. Thankfully he was arrested, and Mary recovered physically, though Marriage to a man who epitomized an abusive husband beating her mercilesslyįor years, suffering bruises, broken bones, and on one occasion, barely escaped being shot. Mary how this abuse affected her life and she recalled a litany of destructiveĭecisions and experiences, particularly in her relationship choices. Told her she was unattractive, not smart, and won’t amount to anything. An orphan from Germany and adopted byĬanadian parents she endured years of verbal abuse by parents who repeatedly OneĮvening we met another Canadian couple both in their early sixties Lets callĪbout her childhood with surprising candor. Stayed to ourselves, reading and enjoying the beautiful beach and ambience. Of 2019 my wife Janine and I visited Cuba for a week’s vacation. This song also evokes the question: how much of our life has been altered inextricablyīy the lies we’ve been told about ourselves by others, and the lies we tell Little Lies by Fleetwood Mac, (1987), was a smash hit for my generation.